Radio Interview with Lynn Cline on KSFR

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I just got this podcast. It’s good. Lynn is a great conversationalist (and author) and our talk about gender roles, the obesity epidemic, relationships, and more will give listeners some real insight into me, my books, and what I’m doing on the planet these days.

I hope you get a chance to listen. It’s about 20 minutes long. If you do, let me know what you think about these issues. I’m looking forward to your thoughts.

http://hwcdn.libsyn.com/p/6/c/0/6c07c8f9feab36be/ClinesCorner_1_22_2016.mp3?c_id=10810376&expiration=1454707060&hwt=d3c97df40daa0d014a6b58145ace6016

The Romance Diet: Body Image and the Wars We Wage on Ourselves by Destiny Allison

Thanks for the awesome review, Teri!

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I’m honored to be featured on the WOW! Women On Writing Blog Tour for Destiny Allison’s new book, The Romance Diet: Body Image and the Wars We Wage on Ourselves.

Brave, raw, and unflinchingly honest, this book is a weight loss journey, a love story, a heart beating loudly on the 26219862page. Every day we battle against something–injustice, our spouses, our weight. Seldom do we acknowledge the real wars we wage. Repressing feelings and silencing our voices, we suffer under the surface, attributing emotional distress and unwanted pounds to the inescapable effects of hormones or age.

But weight gain, anxiety, and marital difficulties aren’t always so easy to explain.

In her poignant and touching memoir, Allison doesn’t offer recipes, exercise tips, or advice. Instead, she shows us how to stand up, express what we want, and develop empathy for ourselves and the people we love. In doing so, she provides…

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Legitimate Outrage or Hype Over CDC’s Advice to Women?

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I read an article on Mashable this morning that made my blood boil. The headline was, “CDC tells millions of women to stop drinking, just in case they get pregnant.”

What the CDC actually said in their updated advisory was (among other things), women should “Stop drinking alcohol if they are trying to get pregnant or could get pregnant.”

The uproar is over the use of the word “could.” It implies that the health of a yet to be conceived and hypothetically desired child is more important than a woman’s right to bodily autonomy.

I posted the article on Facebook. A friend took issue with the inflammatory headline and slant of the article. Her comments made me think.

The CDC did not (one hopes) intentionally seek to render women merely vessels for future, potential offspring. And yet they did. Can you imagine telling a man not to drink because he might one day become a dad and his alcohol consumption might harm his future kid? That would be outrageous. The CDC’s admonition was outrageous. Maybe it was a slip. I assume they meant nothing malicious and certainly the document was not written to have the effect it did.

But here are the questions: Do words matter that much? Should we value intent over content? If we do not police the tiny, unintended messages can we ever shape a culture of equality?

I’m curious to know what you think.

Why Review? Because it’s Easier not to.

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People are scared to write reviews. It’s a fact.

Here are some of the fears:

  • Someone might disagree with me and I’ll feel stupid.
  • I’m not smart enough or don’t know enough to sound intelligent.
  • I’m not a good writer.
  • Nobody cares what I say.
  • My opinion doesn’t count for much.

There are many others, I’m sure, but these are the ones I’ve heard.

Because of these fears, people stay quiet instead of using their voices to help shape the world.

Here are some more facts:

  • Reviews don’t have to be more than a sentence. You can simply write “I loved it.” Or, “Meh.” You can even say you hated it.
  • You don’t have to sound smart, be highly educated about something, or convince anyone else that your opinion is valid. It’s your opinion. You’re entitled to it.
  • Reviews are a lifeline for creatives. Without them, great books never get read. Great products disappear from the shelves. Musicians quit because they can’t get a gig.
  • The more reviews a product has, the more likely it is to succeed. Reviews create momentum that help others find the work or product they need.
  • When you leave a review, you empower yourself. That simple act, those simple words, are recognition that your voice deserves to be heard.

So if you’ve read a good book lately, go to Amazon or Goodreads (or both) and share your enthusiasm. If something is terrible, be kind, but let us know.

Why write a review? Because it’s easier not to. When you think about it, if staying quiet is easier than expressing yourself, are you really being good to you?

Your voice matters. Use it and leave a review.

 

 

The Romance Diet: Body Image and the Wars We Wage on Ourselves by Destiny Allison | Review

Grateful for this wonderful review!

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Destiny Allison's The Romance DietBrave, raw, and unflinchingly honest, this book is a weight loss journey, a love story, a heart beating loudly on the page. Every day we battle against something–injustice, our spouses, our weight. Seldom do we acknowledge the real wars we wage. Repressing feelings and silencing our voices, we suffer under the surface, attributing emotional distress and unwanted pounds to the inescapable effects of hormones or age.

But weight gain, anxiety, and marital difficulties aren’t always so easy to explain.

In her poignant and touching memoir, Allison doesn’t offer recipes, exercise tips, or advice. Instead, she shows us how to stand up, express what we want, and develop empathy for ourselves and the people we love. In doing so, she provides invaluable insight for those seeking to lose weight, save a marriage, or make a significant life change.

Includes a Readers Guide.

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Kick Fear to the Curb

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Join me at 11:30 am MST for a great conversation with Shannon Hernandez on The Courageous Living Show. This show is all about beating fear and stepping into the life you want to live. There will be a live Q & A after our conversation. Here’s the link if you want to tune in:

https://blab.im/m-shannon-hernandez-kicking-fear-to-the-cur…

The Choice of Invisibility

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Have you ever felt invisible? What do you do to be seen?

Today, I’m a guest on Sherrey Meyer’s blog and I’m writing about invisibility. I hope you check it out and let me know what you think.

Healing, like writing, is a slow and difficult process. One day, one word at time, we fill the holes in our hearts. Each word is a drop of water in a dry pond. It is a tear finally shed, a hurt undone. The process not only heals us, it empowers us to do things differently in the future because it changes the way we see ourselves.

Unfortunately, changing the present is more challenging. As we work to give voice to our stories and release them, we are under a constant barrage of cultural norms that seek to diminish us. It takes great courage to rally our voices in a surging storm. To continue reading, Click Here.

She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink

I loved this! This is so much of what my husband and I fought about as we went down the rabbit hole in The Romance Diet. I hope you read and share. This guy nails it.

“It seems so unreasonable when you put it that way: My wife left me because sometimes I leave dishes by the sink.

It makes her seem ridiculous; and makes me seem like a victim of unfair expectations…”

Source: She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink

Live with Julia Goldberg

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I had a great time talking with Julia Goldberg today about The Romance Diet. Julia is an accomplished writer and teaches writing at the University of Art and Design. Her book, Inside Story: Everyone’s Guide to Reporting and Writing Creative Nonfiction, will be published by Leaf Storm Press this summer.

Here’s a link in case you want to listen to our conversation. My segment starts about a 1/3 of the way through.

http://santafe.com/thevoice/podcasts/hunky-dory

The Official Launch

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There’s a lot going on right now as I gear up for the official launch of The Romance Diet at Collected Works Bookstore on Tuesday at 6 pm.

Tomorrow, Friday, I’ll be on two different radio shows. The first is at 12 pm MST with Julia Goldberg. Here’s a link if you’d like to listen.

At 4 pm MST, I’ll be live with Lynn Cline of Cline’s Corner on KVSF. Here’s a link for that one. 

Both conversations should be pretty interesting, though different in tone.

Yesterday, I was on with Jenny McCarthy on Sirius XM’s Dirty, Sexy, Funny. When I get the MP3, I’ll post it.

Also, I’m honored to be a guest on Memoir Writer’s Journey tomorrow with Kathy Pooler. Kathy is featuring one of my posts and is also doing a review.

I hope you can join me on any or all events. Thanks so much for bearing with me and supporting the journey. Looking forward to your thoughts.

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